As far as my lectures and my experience go, there are many signs who can help you identify a manipulator (from the narcissist to the psychopath). Of course, some manipulators won’t have all the characteristics of their species and the cleverest of them all, the psychopath, will hide behind a mask. But even they will
Bad faith is to the manipulator what a racket is to the table tennis player: indispensable. I was thinking about this when I was assisting to my daughter’s college’s reunion on pedagogic trips. When it was “explained” why the direction had taken the unilateral decision to banish screens from the bucolic adventure. The argument, aired
Negative people are always the heroes of their own made-up movie. When we, empathic people have a heart to remind us that we are just one human being among many others, and also a conscience to have us think – sometimes mercilessly – about others’ perspective and our own faults, when we have lucidity, this
In French, being empathic means the faculty to put oneself in the other’s place. To walk in his shoes, so to speak. To be comprehensive: an identification. Whereas in English, being empathic can mean much more: the gift to feel the other person’s emotion. In a mediumistic kind of way: a perception. I prefer the
Lucidity is necessary to prevent us from being attracted to seductive but destructive alternate realities created tailor-made for us by manipulators.
Evil begins with lies. And as manipulators are so talented for editing the truth, wearing masks (not the protective one, it would seem, alas), create alternative realities and, on the whole, live in a shadowy world… It’s necessary for us, good people, to stay lucid.Even when truths are disagreeable. We are so often misleaded, on
Yes, I know, it seems fairly obvious. And you must already be aware that in order to manipulate, one has to lie. But this goes just far beyond what you could possibly imagine. We don’t talk here of a simple and erratic lie, the one you could use to avoid telling an embarrassing truth or
When you’ll find evil in the exploitation of anything, even just causes, the good is found in our individual responsibility… The right to speak while also thinking about possible consequences. The right to be wrong, when you didn’t mean to, without being lynched. In the respect of others, quite simply. And the duty to try
There are a lot of just causes that deserve we fight for them. Like equality or freedom.But even these good causes can be distorted, manipulated, raped by people without conscience or scruples. In their hands, freedom becomes the freedom to do anything they damn please.In a word, selfishness. When some people, for example, refuse to
I wish you the best possible year 2021, a most excellent health, a lot of joyful moments and the courage to do what is right. Because step by step, it’s together that we are going to get back on track.