the signs that point to a manipulator I

As far as my lectures and my experience go, there are many signs who can help you identify a manipulator (from the narcissist to the psychopath). Of course, some manipulators won’t have all the characteristics of their species and the cleverest of them all, the psychopath, will hide behind a mask. But even they will

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on bad faith

Bad faith is to the manipulator what a racket is to the table tennis player: indispensable. I was thinking about this when I was assisting to my daughter’s college’s reunion on pedagogic trips. When it was “explained” why the direction had taken the unilateral decision to banish screens from the bucolic adventure. The argument, aired

the inner movie

Negative people are always the heroes of their own made-up movie. When we, empathic people have a heart to remind us that we are just one human being among many others, and also a conscience to have us think – sometimes mercilessly – about others’ perspective and our own faults, when we have lucidity, this

an empathic warrior

In French, being empathic means the faculty to put oneself in the other’s place. To walk in his shoes, so to speak. To be comprehensive: an identification. Whereas in English, being empathic can mean much more: the gift to feel the other person’s emotion. In a mediumistic kind of way: a perception. I prefer the

the extreme danger of illusions

Evil begins with lies. And as manipulators are so talented for editing the truth, wearing masks (not the protective one, it would seem, alas), create alternative realities and, on the whole, live in a shadowy world… It’s necessary for us, good people, to stay lucid.Even when truths are disagreeable. We are so often misleaded, on

goodness is found in consciences

When you’ll find evil in the exploitation of anything, even just causes, the good is found in our individual responsibility… The right to speak while also thinking about possible consequences. The right to be wrong, when you didn’t mean to, without being lynched. In the respect of others, quite simply. And the duty to try

the manipulation of good causes

There are a lot of just causes that deserve we fight for them. Like equality or freedom.But even these good causes can be distorted, manipulated, raped by people without conscience or scruples. In their hands, freedom becomes the freedom to do anything they damn please.In a word, selfishness. When some people, for example, refuse to