These are not, of course, voices with different tonalities and sources that would give us the impression that someone else is living with us in our head and Napoleon wants to talk to us. Of course not! It’s just that as time went by – too much of it!- and maturity is coming upon me,
They stage an inverse reality, where they are the good guys and the victims of your villainy.
Positive people are the guardrails of the manipulators. And even more so, the guardrails of narcissists who, more than often, can’t count on their cleverness to be high enough to fight against the daily delirium whispered in their brain by their over-inflated ego. We can fully envision it, this delirium, when a narcissist, in Turkmenistan
And the first of the five agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz says just that : “be impeccable with your word!”. Because, to paraphrase the quote attributed to Franck Outlaw, your thoughts can be expressed in words, your words can become actions, which transform in habits, on which your character is built. And ultimately your character
This ordeal can enable us to learn from our mistakes and build a better world. But a negative person won’t ever so it: he will never take his responsibilities. It will fall on us, then, positive people, to take care of it.
Between the good and the bad, there is a border: the one of our intentions.
Manipulators will try to have us think that nothing is completely good or bad. That everything is in 50 shades of grey.That generosity is just well thought self-interest. That everybody does the same. So why not him?If not him, somebody else would have done it anyway. And you are no better. And remember, by the
And what is true for mountaineers is true for socialites. Because if there is “only” one third of negative people in democracies (more like 50% in France), it’s a totally inverse proportion as you climb the social ladder. From a certain hight, you just can’t breathe.
And now is as good a time as ever for the usual disclaimer: I’m no psychiatrist, nor have I had any formation in psychology. Drinking too much is bad for your health. And so is war.But the science of conscience is, in comparison to humane existence, quite recent and contrasted. And is in constant evolution.So
“There are no bad guys” said the man in charge of the pedagogy in my daughter’s college, last year, to all the kids in front of him “there are only good guys sometimes behaving badly.” And my thirteen years old daughter who was part of the assistance and whom I chose to raise as far